When Your Spouse Won't Tune Out

1. Negotiate. If your mate lives in front of the television, try to negotiate for some family time. Ask your spouse to reserve one night of the week for family nights, or to reserve an hour or so each evening to be with you and the kids. In return, don't pester him or her about watching television at other times.

2. Plan. Sometimes we watch TV because it's our "default" setting: It's easier to watch TV than to find something else to do. If you plan activities your spouse enjoys, though, you may be able to stop the TV from getting turned on in the first place! Invite friends to dinner, go biking, go for a walk together, or start a new hobby that appeals to your spouse.

3. Join your spouse. No, don't become a couch potato with him. But show some interest in his favorite shows. Ask him, without accusing, why he likes certain shows and not others. Once he sees you showing genuine interest, he's more likely to return the favor and spend time with you doing something else.

4. Back off. Don't nag. Fighting about television is likely to strengthen your spouse's resolve. Leave room for God to speak to your spouse.

5. Do something else. If your spouse doesn't cooperate, find something else to do on your own: exercise, read, spend time on a favorite hobby, play a game with the kids.

6. Pray. Give this issue to God. Ask him to give everyone in your family the right attitude about their use of time, and trust God to do the convincing for you.