Visiting An 'Old-fashioned Woodshed'
By Rev. Mark H. Creech
Christian Post Guest Columnist
According to a recent article in USA Today, there is one thing the nation's
most successful CEOs have in common – they received their share of spankings
as children.
Although the article stated that "[m]ost CEOs believed spankings played little
or no role in their success," the CEOs also acknowledged that the practice
taught them valuable life lessons. David Haffner, chief executive officer of
Leggett & Platt, said the spankings he received as a child made him
"disciplined, detailed and organized." Joe Mogolia, with TD Ameritrade, said
he learned from his parents that "tough love is better than soft love."
Also cited in the article is a recent study by sociologists Eve Tahmincioglu,
titled: "From the Sandbox to the Corner Office: Lessons Learned on the Journey
to the Top." Chapter One of the book is called "Less Carrott, More Stick." And
in the book, Tahmincioglu contends spanking taught the 55 executives she
interviewed "to respect authority." "They feared their parents, but loved them
as well. Their parents would follow through with a spanking when the children
misbehaved. Today there is no follow-through," she argued.
Fans of the Andy Griffith Show may remember that delightful episode, "Opie and
the Spoiled Kid" – the one where a spoiled boy moves to Mayberry and tries to
run all over everybody, including Andy and Barney, the town's local law
enforcement. When Andy impounds the boy's bike for his misbehavior, the boy's
father protests until he discovers his bratty son would rather he end-up in
jail than for him to lose his bike. This prompts the father to sell the bike
and accept Andy's advice that the boy needs a good visit to an "old-fashioned
woodshed." Hmmm ... don't believe that would fly on any modern national
television broadcast.
USA Today notes that modern child psychologists "wince" at the idea of
administering corporal punishment. Dr. Robert Fathman of the Ohio-based group
End Physical Punishment of Children (EPOCH-USA), says, "If you bring a child
up and you're spanking them, they're more likely to hit an animal, a pet.
They're more likely to hit another child." [2] Other psychologists like Dr.
James Dobson of Focus on the Family, however, strongly disagree, contending:
"[I]t is possible – even easy – to create a violent and aggressive child who
has observed this behavior at home. If he is routinely beaten by hostile,
volatile parents or if he witnesses physical violence between angry adults or
if he feels unloved and unappreciated within his family, that child will not
fail to notice how the game is played. Thus corporal punishment that is not
administered according to very carefully thought-out guidelines is a risky
thing. Being a parent carries no right to slap and intimidate a child because
you had a bad day or are in a lousy mood. It is this kind of unjust discipline
that causes some well-meaning authorities to reject corporal punishment as a
form of discipline. Just because a technique is used wrongly, however, is no
reason to reject it all together. Many children desperately need this
resolution to their disobedience .... When he lowers his head, clenches his
fist, and makes it clear he is going for broke, justice must speak swiftly and
eloquently. Not only does this response not create aggression in children, it
helps them control their impulses and live in harmony with various forms of
benevolent authority throughout life." [ Written in response to an question
submitted through the Focus on the Family website ]
Still more important than what the experts say about spanking is what the
Bible teaches. Some may find it a surprise, but the Bible commends corporal
punishment in King Solomon's words: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son:
but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24). Some
religious leaders, however, say the word "rod" in this text wasn't meant to be
taken literally. In an article titled, "Children and the Rod of Correction,"
Dr. Dave Miller of Apologetics Press effectively addresses this
misinterpretation:
"Lest someone get the idea that Solomon used the term 'rod' figuratively,
without intending to leave the impression that parents should actually strike
their children with a rod, he clarified the target: 'Do not withhold
correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You
shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell' (Proverbs
23:13-14). A proper balance is obviously needed between verbal reproof and
encouragement on the one hand, and the application of corporal punishment on
the other, as seen in the following words: 'The rod and reproof give wisdom,
but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Correct your son, and
he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul' (Proverbs
29:15, 17, emphasis added). The immense importance of the interplay between
positive instruction, encouragement, and nurturing, in conjunction with
appropriate physical punishment, cannot be overestimated nor successfully
discounted."
It's interesting to note that the "interplay between positive instruction,
encouragement, and nurturing, in conjunction with appropriate physical
punishment" in the life of today's children is often neglected. It seems many
children are subjected to one or more extremes – either they are completely
neglected and left to raise themselves, tortured and physically abused by
twisted or insensitive parents, or over indulged by well-meaning ones with far
too much "sweet-talking" and not enough action to back up their commands. Is
it any wonder America is raising one of the most rebellious and violent
generations in its history?
Children need to be taught a healthy fear (reverential respect and awe) for
God and authority figures in life. No one can better administer these lessons
than parents. And sometimes, though it should always be a last resort, there
is no better means to get that lesson across than to do what the parent's of
yesteryear used to do – take the youngster for a visit, so to speak, to an
"old-fashioned woodshed."
Spanking may not make a child into a famous CEO, but when it's affectionately
and appropriately applied, it very likely will make him or her into an
emotionally well-rounded, disciplined, and morally responsible individual.
Rev. Mark H. Creech (calact@aol.com) is the executive director of the
Christian Action League of North Carolina, Inc.
