Leader's Insight: Can I
Trust You?
Strengthening the three legs of trust.
by Angie Ward, regular contributor
"I just don't understand," Tom lamented. "My
board is saying they don't trust me. But I'm not dishonest, and I
would never intentionally do anything to hurt my church because God
clearly called me to plant Community Fellowship."
Tom didn't know what to do, but he definitely
knew something wasn't quite right. Although his church was
experiencing explosive growth, Tom was perplexed by criticisms of
his ministry at the leadership level. Board meetings were growing
increasingly tense, and questions of Tom's integrity became more
frequent. The more insecure he felt, the less he communicated with
his board, which led to even louder murmuring among those "in the
know" at the church. But Tom had no idea how this had happened, or
what could be done to change it.
Tom's situation is not unique. In my work with
churches and ministry leaders, I have frequently discovered an
underlying current of mistrust within the organization, a current
that subtly but surely erodes a church's foundation.
Trust is critical to a church's health and,
ultimately, to its ministry effectiveness. When people in a church
don't trust each other or their leaders, the church becomes a
diseased organism that will poison those who come into contact with
it, or shrivel up and stop producing fruit—often times both.
And while mistrust can and does exist at all
levels within a church, its leaders generally set the tone for
organizational health. Unfortunately, many leaders do not realize
that trust has several key components. This misunderstanding becomes
clear in situations like Tom's. Often times, when a leader is told
that she is not trustworthy, she mistakenly takes it to mean that
she is being accused of dishonesty or deceit.
But I've become convinced that a leader's (or
group of leaders') credibility stands on not just one, but three
legs; when any one of those three legs is broken or even wobbly,
trust quickly erodes; a leader's credibility is called into
question, and the church's health is compromised.
These three legs are character,
competence, and communication.
1. Character. This component of trust is
the most obvious, and the one that is most often singularly equated
with trust. Character can be defined as a leader's sense of moral
fortitude, an inner compass that determines how a person acts when
no one else is looking, and it is often described externally as a
person's reputation. In ministry, there is no dispute that great
leaders are people of good repute who exhibit strong, godly
character. A person of weak character, on the other hand, will by
definition be dishonest or double-tongued.
2. Competence. But even if a leader
demonstrates honest and trustworthy character, he or she might not
be competent for the task at hand. In Tom's case, he was an amazing
and truly inspiring visionary, but he was not at all gifted in the
areas of strategy and day-to-day execution. In these areas, Tom was
not trustworthy. It's not that he was dishonest, but he was
unreliable—not as deep-seated as a true character flaw, but a
variation of untrustworthiness nonetheless. As a result, even though
his character was above reproach, trust in his leadership began to
break down.
3. Communication. The final leg of trust
is communication, and in my experience, this is often the most
easily overlooked element of trust, because it exists at the most
basic, everyday level of leadership. But it is precisely because it
exists at such a basic level that communication is so foundational
to leadership trust.
If a leader does not communicate well (and by
"well" I mean with honesty and frequency at all levels in the
organization and along all stages of an issue or task), colleagues
and congregation alike will start to wonder if a deeper problem
exists. And it is this first question that starts to weaken the
foundation of trust.
Now, one incident of mis- (or missing)
communication generally isn't enough to cast a cloud over otherwise
impeccable character and competence. However, a pattern of spotty
communication allows doubts to surface: "If Pastor is not
communicating about this, what else is he withholding from us?"
Trust erodes, and eventually character itself gets called into
question.
I know of more than one ministry leader who has
been accused of deception (which is a character issue), when the
entire problem could have been avoided with more diligent
communication around the matter at hand, be it a fundraising
campaign or other financial matter, a moral issue, or the process of
change within the church. In Tom's case, his communication "sin" was
one of omission; fortunately, he recognized the problem in time to
reverse most, although not all, of the damage that had been done to
that point.
For most leaders, as with Tom, the first step is
simply awareness. As a ministry leader, recognize the importance of
trust. Next, learn the difference between the three legs, and their
different roles in facilitating trust. Finally, learn to recognize
when one or more of the legs are broken or in danger of breaking
down in your ministry, and how to repair them. The result will be a
stronger foundation, a healthier church, and greater ministry
effectiveness.